Is money spent on travel ever really wasted?
About 30 years ago, when our daughters were aged six and four, a colleague gave me a note from a calendar named Life’s Little Instruction Manual. The instruction for June 1 was to ‘Take family vacations, whether you can afford them or not. The memories will be priceless.’
We did follow this advice and found that the money we thought we didn’t have was definitely best invested in family adventures, both at home and overseas. We still travel joyfully with these 30-somethings and they, too, happily invest in their own adventures…
January tends to be a time of reflection over what has been and planning for what might arise in the year ahead. One question that’s bound to come up is ‘Can you really afford that trip?’
I would ask, ‘Can you not?’
Creating memories
Many of us are reaching a time of life when we can lose friends, family or colleagues without warning. Every day is indeed a bonus. And when we gather to celebrate these loved ones, how often is it the image of them laughing around a campfire or dining in a beachside shack that stays with you the longest?
Travel means different things to different people. The older I get, the smaller, more intentional my own travel becomes. It’s not about luxury or resorts or scale. It’s the opposite of a bucket list. It’s the moments that now matter the most.
A couple of weeks ago I travelled to Sydney for the CEPAR retirement incomes conference. I was caught in the rain at the University of New South Wales, so I needed to book an Uber for a short journey I could have more easily walked in 15 minutes. The Uber took forever and when he finally arrived, the driver told me he had been stuck behind a barrier in the UNSW carpark. My immediate response was to think, ‘Oh great, I get the driver who can’t get out of a carpark?’ But no, turns out he was a former UNSW lecturer, a European engineer who speaks three languages. We started talking about great literature – he said his favourite was the work of Evelyn Waugh. And then our conversation turned to Tolstoy, to Anna Karenina (he’s read it five times) and War and Peace which neither of us has tackled yet. We made a pact we would both do this in 2025. What a legend this guy was. I swear he circled my hotel three times while we both remembered other brilliant books we wanted to share … a short trip made long, but a memorable, special connection. That’s travel, right there.
Simple can be best
How do you plan travel that creates special memories or meaningful connections?
It doesn’t have to be that hard. Start by being your own tour guide, doing your own version of a city. The year before the Covid pandemic surprised us all, I managed a week on my own in Italy before meeting up with our daughter. I stayed in the Trastevere district and walked across different bridges on the Tiber every day, getting my steps up and experiencing the varied neighbourhoods of Rome. I’m a big fan of the sixteenth century artist Caravaggio, so I created a walking tour of the five or so churches in central Rome that have his paintings. Most were small, very dark, very quiet allowing the space and freedom to contemplate his genius without crowd, security guards and distraction. Similarly, as a fan of the Stoics, I headed up the Capitoline Hill to sit at the feet of a huge bronze stature of Marcus Aurelius on his horse. I spent an hour there, people watching and thinking about his words of wisdom, before the heat of Rome’s midday sun forced me to move on. Another memory, another moment I won’t forget.
Being your own tour guide allows you to follow your interests in language, art, music, literature, faith, architecture in a way that is most powerful for you. You’ll find plenty of ways to connect through these interests, be they language or cooking classes, free walking tours, pub singalongs or choir recitals.
Travelling alone is also powerful. You’re frequently forced to connect and be the richer for it. Staying in local, small, personal guest houses or (non-Air) B&Bs is a surefire way to meet hosts and learn so much more about local issues and customs.
I’m continually impressed by what is reported to be Bill Gate’s annual pilgrimage to ‘somewhere quiet’ with a bagful of books to just be, read and take in new ideas. It’s clearly not really about the money – it’s about small ambitions and slow travel.
This year I copied Bill’s idea, travelling to the Greek island of Ithaka. Yes, this is the place that Odysseus strove to return to despite the vicissitudes of the gods who blew him off course at every opportunity. I get why Odysseus tried so hard to get back. It’s hard to find words that do justice to the peace and glory of early morning in Ithaka’s port town of Vathy; empty streets, golden clouds, deep green hills and pale pink, blue and lemon houses clustered around the aquamarine waters of the port. I learn that Vathy means ‘deep’. It’s apt. My mornings sitting at the Dentrakia Café are deep, with time to sit and be, rather than do. They’ll stay with me forever.
I hope you enjoy this very brief ‘cost-benefit analysis’ of the true worth of travel. And in 2025 you will be your own best tour guide, making new adventures the wisest investment of all.
Kaye Fallick is Founder of STAYINGconnected website and SuperConnected enews. She has been a commentator on retirement income and ageing demographics since 1999. This article is general information and does not consider the circumstances of any person.