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COVID-19: 'In the midst of death we are in life'

This virus has changed most of us already. We felt - not just thought or intellectually understood - we would die and that vulnerable people near us would die and that this could happen soon. For many people, mainly the older, it will happen this year.

Yet, apart from buying more than we needed in the supermarket, we did not act as if it might really happen. I have not heard any stories of people quitting their jobs or relationships and before restrictions on travel, flying to family or old lovers around the world. The things we said we would do if it was the end of the world remain on lists.

Have we missed a trick?

Instead, we worried about losing our jobs and spent time making sure our kids were sticking to the home-schooling timetable so that they could find decent jobs in years to come. We sent the message that it was business as usual, probably to remain calm and, as a civic gesture, to encourage others to stay calm too. We have stayed at home like good citizens.

But have we missed a trick here? Are we slaves to this civic-mindedness or, worse, the economy? If we thought this was the end of the world, for a lot of us, Oasis’ Champagne Supernova, where were we when they were getting high? Washing our hands or wringing them?

Our self-absorption in Australia is fairly high. Living forever because of the weather and natural beauty of the place could be tempting. Long-haul flights to the rest of the world mean our holidays need to be longer anyway. Because we have so much, the thought of losing it hurts. Man is naturally neurotic, mainly because, alone among creatures, we are aware that we are going to die. But if we do not respect this fundamental truth, we make ourselves sick.

Becker wrote in The Denial of Death, "there is just no way for the living creature to avoid life and death, and it is probably poetic justice that if he tries too hard to do so he destroys himself".

Making the most of the trip

I work as a lawyer with families. We plan for the worst but hope for the best on a daily basis. My happiest clients are those who dodged a bullet by either divorcing someone they did not want to be with or surviving a near-death experience. If we survive, and most of us will, COVID-19 gives us all the opportunity to be this happy.

I am facing up to my death. I don't expect to get a prize for this but I hope to avoid the folly of enjoying the trip for the wrong reasons. Not only should we be able to talk about death but to do so helps others and shows empathy, wit and, relative to those who dare not mention it, bravery.

The authority on this, Dr Elizabeth Kübler-Ross in On Death and Dying, found that, "the more we are making advancements in science, the more we seem to fear and deny the reality of death." By trying to ignore it we are missing out on a unifying social truth. Misery loves company but death insists on it. Like the disgraced HIH businessman Ray Williams, who used to book a second business class seat for his briefcase, death does not travel alone.

The artist Damien Hirst has a very expensive sculpture called The Physical Impossibility of Death in the Mind of Someone Living. The Australian comedian Sam Simmons put it more economically when he told an audience that he did not want to die but would not mind being dead for a while. If we are hibernating now, we should come out rested and with better energy.

I am lucky I am Irish. Death is a national obsession so we can digest and process this more easily. For my generation, it is all Yeats’ fault. In a poem we were made to learn off by heart in primary school, Yeats cried, "Consume my heart away, sick with desire And fastened to a dying animal”. I have collected some of these quotes on life and death by Irish writers who are our philosophers. Irish political heroes were martyrs and we learned graveyard orations in school. We are not ones for bucket lists. We know there is a hole in the bucket.

But didn’t we all learn about it at school when we grew watercress (or whatever lucky plant you were encouraged to grow) and learned about photosynthesis and neglect? No one told us about the dying process but nature taught us, sometimes only a day or two later.

Saul Bellow said “death is the dark backing a mirror needs if we are to see anything”. The bitter truth is that you and me and everyone we know is going to die and the sooner we face up to that the better. I might say, “I know I am going to die” but do I really accept it? For those of us locked into thinking like an economy not a society, supply and demand rules mean life is even more precious, right?

The lucky among us, who survive COVID-19, can take it as a near-death experience and lead lives more focussed on what we, not the government, think is important. This is our opportunity and now is the time to grasp it before complacency creeps back in.

What kind of a life do you really want to lead?

By your actions, what do you want to tell others that you chose to do from all of your options?

There are already wonderful examples of people helping others, expressing thanks to those on the frontline. The best of people comes undemanded by the government. We do not have to be told. Why shouldn’t we continue this long after this pandemic? It took many deaths for us to live the lives we want. We see that we are all in this together. We should wash our hands because we think it is the right thing to do, not because we are told to and it is a part of an economic plan.

Mourning his father, James Joyce said, "Life is so tragic — birth, death, departure, sickness, death — that we are permitted to distract ourselves and forget a little". A little distraction is a good thing but we need to see the big picture.

At my work, I tell people the legal facts about a death in a family, listen to their hopes and help them to leave the legacy they want. I prepare, if I do say so, beautiful legalistic documents but the most important thing my clients should do, I tell them, is to write a practical and philosophical ‘user’s manual’ for their young children and a love letter to their older family and friends. This will help them to live forever. It took an embarrassingly long time for me to realise that I should do the same.

In the book that gave me the idea for the title of my own book[1], The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, Sogyal Rinpoche points out two certainties; “It is absolutely certain that we will die, and it is uncertain when or how we will die”.

But, as Cormac McCarthy, himself influenced by Yeats and no stranger to an Irish background, said “just because one is a pessimist doesn’t mean one has to be miserable about it”. For now, we are still here!

 

Donal Griffin is the Principal of Legacy Law, a Sydney-based legal firm specialising in protecting family assets. The firm is not licensed to give financial advice. 

[1] This essay was drawn from a book the writer is finishing called The Irish Book of Living and Dying, Volume 1. The title of this article is said by Leopold Bloom, the fictional protagonist and hero in James Joyce’s Ulysses.

 

7 Comments
Duncan Loasby
May 14, 2020

Wise, erudite and insightful as usual Donal. Amazing work.

Emma
April 20, 2020

Beautiful article, thank you Donal.

Martin Mulcare
April 15, 2020

Thanks, Donal,
Here are links to two organisations that are striving to provide improved language and literacy about death in a society where apparently no-one dies anymore, they just "pass":
https://www.thegroundswellproject.com/
https://www.lifecircle.org.au/

Greg Page
April 15, 2020

My goodness. What a wonderful article Donal.
It especially resonates, because I too have tried to live life purposefully and at times have wondered if I should instead use the “flip a coin” approach.

And thanks for the answers Manual and Love Letters. These will not be easy to write, but write them I shall.

Thank you!

Donal Griffin
April 20, 2020

Thank you Greg. Feel free to email if you would like any guidance on what others do (respecting their confidentiality).

Ramani
April 15, 2020

In addition to tweaking the system, I desperately hope that COVID-19 might induce a fundamental rethink about our fixation with material possessions.
Everyone needs accommodation, food, relationships and good health, but all these are extend-able and contract-able. Boom times (and living like the mythical Joneses) induce splurging often without stress -testing (what if my borrowing rates go up, job is lost, a family disaster strikes, accidents happen - how would I cope, and what would I cut?)
By emphasising living within means we can increase our ability to navigate crises. Resilience!

Donal Griffin
April 20, 2020

Thank you Ramani.

 

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